Planning for conversations

As you prepare for a function, come up with three things to talk about as well as four generic questions that will get others talking.

If you’ve met the host before, try to remember things about her, such as her passion for a sport or a charity you’re both involved in.


The power time

Make all your calls in the morning-this is when people are most likely to be available. Then, block off the rest of your day on interrupted work.


How to make conversation

Make conversation by telling a story – As you approach a group of individuals you can be confident with carrying on a good conversation when you can tell a story.


Discovering jokes that are not funny

Don’t laugh at your own jokes. Ok, sometimes the joke is so funny, you can be forgiven for laughing, but most times, a simple smile is best


Kick starting conversations

If you’re meeting someone for the second time, and you don’t know them very well, anything you can remember that they said about themselves will be useful if the conversation needs kick starting.


Improving your public speaking

Improving you public speaking means developing your own style. It does not mean learning to speak like a newscaster or someone else. It means strengthening your ability to say what you want to say.


Quantifying the art of speaking

The art of speaking is roughly 51% entertainment, 49% meaty content.

Your primary responsibility is to entertain a room full of people. This doesn’t necessarily equate to jokes and magic tricks, but it does mean that the content of your presentation, and the delivery of that content, should be compelling and engaging.


When to speak

When speaking, develop a sense of timing, so that your contributions are seen and heard as relevant to the issue or matter at hand.

There is a time to speak and a time to be silent. ‘It’s better to be silent than sing a bad tune.’


Say little and speak volumes

Often a person says too much instead of too little. In a variety of communication situations, less is better.

For example, if you are using a PowerPoint presentation, don’t put 50 words on a slide.


Experience while speaking

Gain experience by taking every opportunity you can to speak. The more often you speak in public, the more confidence you will gain and the more polished a speaker you will become.


Seeds of conversation

When listening you want to pay particular attention to any "seeds" or free information she happens to throw your way.

Seeds refer to subtle hints that women give that point to conversational topics that they would like to or be willing to discuss.


Being prepared when speaking

When speaking in public, know your material. There is no substitute for being well prepared and in command of the subject matter of your speech.


Appearance and audience reaction

How you appear to the audience will have an impact on their reaction to what you are going to tell them. Your posture and the way you conduct yourself on the platform is an important part of your presentation.


Taking a compliment

When someone compliments you, the simple steadfast rule is to smile and say thank you.

Do not shrug off a compliment or disagree with what they are saying as this will show that you think the other person’s judgment is poor, and dissuade them from complimenting you in future.